Twenty-two years ago, I decided to stop working and be a stay-at-home mom. It was the best career move of my life, but somehow, family and friends made me feel like I was making the wrong decision, and wasting my talents by staying home, by concentrating on being a mom. After all, I belonged to that generation of women who had gained the right and the freedom to work, and be a mom as well.
For a while, I was ashamed of saying I was a stay-at-home mom, and whenever I met my friends who were working moms, I felt like I was not good as everybody else. In time, I learned to come to terms with my decision, and when asked what I did, I called myself a Jack of all trades for being a mother was being able to do a little bit of everything.
For me, parenting was learning as well. In my quest to be the right parent for Maia, I acquired various skills that would no doubt make me a more productive person in the workplace. Sadly, being a stay-at-home mom is not a career that I can include in my resume. My best career move has to be downplayed, if not disguised with professional-sounding volunteer activities.
Thus far, it has been difficult for me to return to earning a regular paycheck. Difficult, but not impossible, I believe, because of the resilience I
learned while being a parent.
Stay tuned. And in the meantime, check out my East Meets West Parenting column in the Washington Times.